The need to love and be loved is innate in all of us. Abraham Maslow, the eminent psychologist, stated that love is a fundamental human need which comes immediately after we fulfil our basic and safety needs. But we don’t need someone else to tell us how intense the desire can be to find that special someone that we can call our own. We have all felt it for ourselves.
The emotions we feel when we are in love are beyond what any words can describe. It is often said that love transcends logic. That’s why we pursue love so passionately. Also, more often than not, it has a habit of catching us off guard.
We all want to meet the perfect soulmate. Have you often wondered, “Is there someone out there for me?”
Someone you can share your entire life with, someone you can give all your love to, someone who understands you so deeply they not only love you, they love your soul, and is always there for you no matter what.
While some are lucky to find their true love, others have to jump through all kinds of hoops to find their soulmates.
We’ve all heard amazing soulmate stories of people meeting each other, sometimes in the most unlikely of circumstances, and yet still becoming the ideal couple.
A Marist Poll found that:
- 73% of people in America believe in soulmates but 27% don’t
- 80% of under 30’s believes in them
- 78% of 30 to 44-year-olds believe in ‘the one’
- Men believe slightly more at 74% than women at 71% that there is a perfect someone out there.
That’s quite a high percentage across the board.
But to be able to find our perfect soulmate, we must first understand what soulmate means. Wiki’s soulmate definition says:
“A soulmate is a person with whom one has a feeling of deep or natural affinity. This may involve similarity, love, romance, platonic relationships, comfort, intimacy, sexuality, sexual activity, spirituality, compatibility and trust.”
So, how can you find the love of your life? To find your soulmate, you can do these 6 things:
- Love yourself first
- Work out what it is you want
- Be more attractive, Inside and Out
- Use the Law of Attraction
- Be prepared to leave your comfort zone
- Listen to your gut
By doing these, you will definitely improve your chances of finding that special someone in your life. Read on to see how they can help you find your soulmate.
Love Yourself First
A wise person once said, “The most important relationship that we have is with ourselves.” We rarely think about how we feel inside determines the way we see the outside world. Only when we love ourselves, will we be able to love someone else. There is an enormous amount of wisdom in those words.
If we can’t be comfortable with whom we are and let go of the inner voice that tells us we are not good enough, we’ll just keep repeating the old unsuccessful patterns.
What Do You Want?
Each of us is unique. So, naturally, the qualities that we would like our soulmates to have will be particular to us as well. The word ‘soulmate’ is used for someone if they are already ideally suited for us, but if we are clear about what we want in the other person, it will make our search easier.
Some people are not even sure of what they are looking for. They hope to bump into the right person at the right time and at the right place. Although this is not impossible, it sure is difficult.
Sometimes the right person may already be in our lives and we wouldn’t know about it, just because we are not clear about what we want in our heads. Having clarity can go a long way in helping us meet our one true love.
Be More Attractive, Inside and Out
A relationship is a two-way street. If we want our soulmates to have certain qualities that we will be attracted to, we must also have qualities that our soulmates will be attracted to.
Most people are looking for loyalty, companionship, kindness, generosity, a positive attitude and a strong physical attraction. Basically, we all want a good person. These are all traits that can be worked on.
So, if you think you could be kinder, work on that. Maybe you could do with losing a few pounds. Getting in better shape would not only make you more physically attractive to someone, but the confidence that you would get from feeling better about yourself is also an attractive quality.
Use The Law of Attraction
If we had a magic wand that could grant all our wishes, we would naturally use it to manifest all those wishes. The law of attraction is, literally, that magic wand that we all possess.
It is a vast subject that needs an entire article for itself, but basically, what it states is that our thoughts become our reality. In other words, what we think about the most is what we keep manifesting in our lives. Using this principle, we can all materialise our soulmates.